Social Phobia


Why are frogs so happy?

They eat whatever bugs them.


My name is Karen Novak. I’m a licensed clinical social worker. For a long time I've been interested in the relationship between success and happiness. In my early thirties when I was beginning to acquire some career success, my happiness seemed to be going down. At the time I was married to my wonderful husband and I was working as a marketing analyst at a major corporation. The mental effort I went through dealing with the success/happiness problem is what brought me to make some major changes in my life. With my husband's support I became a social worker and this is work that I love.

If you are not as happy as you could be, it probably means that you are discontented with some area of your life.

It's worth exploring what causes people to feel discontented, what discontentment really is and where it comes from.

You might want to look at what might be causing you to feel dissatisfied at times. You may be able to identify some strategies to remedy those feelings.

Signs of Discontentment

Typical signs of discontentment:

Feeling dissatisfied with your life is not a pleasant experience, but it can lead you in a positive direction.

Feelings of discontent are telling you that you are off track. Your actions are out of synch with your values, goals, or talents.

Signs of Satisfaction

One of the reasons people begin to feel dissatisfied is that they have lost touch with their values. If you are not living your life in accordance with your values, you are almost certain to feel discontent.

Your childhood is another important place to look for clues about what is really important to you in life.

Remembering forgotten dreams may give us clues for what will bring us satisfaction now.

Fantasizing about your ideal future is a valuable way to get on track in that direction.

False beliefs that might make a person avoid happiness: